Do you want to know if your partner or your best friend or whoever is lying to you? Here’s a method to do just that.
Let’s say your best friend said she could not go out to dinner with you tonight because she had already promised to go to the movies with another friend. You did not think she was telling the truth, but how can you be certain?
Well, the next day, you could give her a call and ask if she really did go to the movies. But this would not uncover the truth, because if she really did go, she would of course say yes. However, if she did not go, she would still say yes.
You can invent a plausible story and say, “Did you watch the whole movie last night? Guess what - A friend of mine also went to watch the same movie at the same cinema yesterday and he told me halfway watching the movie, a fire broke out and the show had to be cancelled!”
Now all you need to do is wait for her response.
Your best friend now faces a difficult situation. If she didn’t go to the movies, she does not know whether to acknowledge there was a fire because there might not have been one. And if she says there wasn’t any fire and there was, then you’ll also know she wasn’t really at the movies. But regardless of her answer, she will do one thing every liar will do in this situation – she will hesitate and trying to decide how to answer.
Now if your friend really went to the movies, she will say “There’s no fire. What are you talking about? I think your friend was at a different cinema.”
But if she hesitates, or gives the wrong answer like agreeing to what you said, or perhaps even changes the subject, then you know you are not getting the truth.
Believe me, this technique works every time!
If that's the case, I'm not sure I want to know the truth. A little white lie doesn't hurt I guess. Sometimes friends do it because to avoid hurting each others' feelings.
I don't think I would consider someone who felt it necessary to lie or to 'test' me in this way as a true friend.
What a truly sad way to relate to people who we supposedly care about. I think it may come about from watching far to many episodes of programmes where being able to scam and outdo people as being worthy, to be applauded.
No, my friends, my true friends don't feel the need to lie to me and I wouldn't lie to them. The truth is much nicer, a much nicer friend even if it is painful or difficult.
So no need to try and think of a 'clever' way to check if your friend is lying to you. You are clearly not really true friends and there is no trust.
Obviously, just my opinion.
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How very clever. I never thought to ask in such a way.
Thanks for all your opinions! Some may find this technique useful, others may not feel good using it. Well, to each his own!
haha two thumbs up for this post! it did really works and i did it few times on my frens and even my ex!
caroline, glad you find this tip works for you! : )